last logged in on June 14, 2015 6:24 am4 Essential Elements for Help In writing empathy messages it's better to remember which you're dealing with somebody who is grieving. A good consciousness of the grieving and bereavement process can offer you a great comprehension of the best way to draft a clear and tactful empathy communication. You may feel that your empathy will not be of much to help, but the simple act of letting the person know you care can relieve some of their pain and suffering. understanding of bereavement The entire process of thank you notes is pained and graceless for everyone involved. Being aware of what is going on inside ourselves and the bereaved can help ourselves to value the grieving process a little better. This in turn will make ourselves more impressive as support for our grieving friends as well as kin, and help us to write a consoling condolence message. It is fairly natural to feel uneasy when addressing a bereaved person, even by condolence communicating. The undeniable fact that we are not facing them does not make choosing the perfect words any easier. But grieving does not come with a how-to book, or place of rules. There's no perfect way or wrong way to grieve, everyone is different and so grieves distinctively. For this reason, when writing a empathy communication it is a good idea not to work with directive terms like - "you shouldn't feel that way". We do not understand the depth or the dynamics of their association with the deceased. When writing a sympathy letter understand that people who are grieving fluctuate between emotions and distinct degrees of them. Be sure that everything you say in your message is not at all something that'll exaggerate an already unhealthy negative emotion. People are sensitive at this time, so make an effort to maintain your sympathy message one that assembles and nurtures. draft your sympathy message as though you're sitting together with the individual. Envision yourself in a discussion with folks; this should help the letters to flow just a little simpler. When Offering Your Empathy in person It could be that rather than write a letter of condolence, you choose to go to and give your condolences in person. This really is notably true if you're a neighbour, or live close by. To ease the potential awkwardness of the circumstances, keep these matters in mind: - Don't prevent the subject. Everyone is conscious of the "elephant in the room" - Bring up the subject by name. Do not treat the name of the deceased like it's a bad word. - Ask in the event the bereaved feels like speaking. If not, be okay to just sit in quiet, understanding your presence alone is a comfort. If you are feeling pained with this, offer to make some tea or something to eat. - Enable the bereaved to "ramble on" if the need. I recall when my father died. people who are grieving will frequently not even think about asking for assistance. The world as they understand it has come to an purposeful arrest, plus they realize themselves in foreign territory. Routine regular chores and responsibilities aren't even thought of, so take the initiative and help people who are grieving. Call their company if need be, do some cooking, help with the funeral arrangements, whatever it takes. Keeping active can help you deal with the emotions you're falling upon as well, and help you all on your way to healing.